Whether it’s a few days away at the beach over the summer, skiing in the winter, or anything in between, whatever vacation destination you enjoy will also have single ladies heading there to get away, relax, let loose, forget about work, and generally have a good time… you can help her with that if you follow these tips.
Frame of mind:
When people get away from where they live their mentality changes, you know the feeling. They focus on things they don’t normally see/have/do at home. Vacations don’t count; they are out of the real world now. Vegas anyone? The pursuit of relaxation often includes things they wouldn’t normally do but have now become acceptable. Work with that mentality and play into it. Frame yourself as a fun, adventurous, sexual, non-judgmental guy who thinks you could have some fun together and she’ll be able to read between the lines. Also don’t bring up work, your interactions should remain in vacationland. You don’t want to take her mind back to home, that’s a bad way to keep it fun.
Escalate quickly:
This goes hand-in-hand with #1. You’re not looking to set up a date for next week; you’re looking to have a good time tonight. Don’t be afraid to break the touch barrier earlier than normal and escalate quickly. She’ll let you know if you’re coming on too strong. Pay close attention to her body language and how she reacts to your touching because she might not use words to tell you that you’re doing the right things.
Logistics are key:
You’re staying in a hotel; she’s probably staying in a hotel. You’re there with friends; she’s there with… who knows? You need to figure out details like who she’s in town with and where she’s staying. Knowing where you’re staying in relation to the bar, as well as the best way to get home, or her place if it’s closer, will help when you’re leaving with her. Don’t feel bad about moving on if you realize that her logistics make it impossible, you don’t have that much time. Determining and managing the logistics of the night when you’re on vacation will be what makes or breaks your hook-up.
Be aware of the altitude:
Most people don’t have much experience with the various ways the lower oxygen level at higher altitudes affects their body. Among those being that alcohol is absorbed and processed faster than normal. This means if you drink as you normally would, you’ll end up getting wasted, so slow it down and add some water. Believe me, there is nothing that will end a hook up faster than vomit.
Do not ever brag about how good at (insert local activity) you are:
Disclaimer: This one is somewhat personal since I live in a ski town and hear this shit constantly, but still… don’t do it. It’s a form of qualifying and is really unattractive. You never hear Tom Brady talking about how nice his throwing motion is, or Michael Jordan talking about how good his jump shot is, do you? No. Instead deflect questions about your ability by responding with something like “I really try not to compare myself with other people, I just love being out, having a good time, enjoying myself.
Vacation is about having a good time, for everyone. Women included. Keep these tips in mind and your good time might end up as a great time.
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